I GIVE MYSELF THE LOVE, THE ATTENTION AND THE CARE I GIVE OTHERS
Treating yourself with curiosity, devotion and respect
Who is your favorite person on earth?
What do you think when you look at them?
How much time do you want to spend with them?
How easily do you forgive them and how patient are you with their small mistakes and shortcomings?
If they were to need you, how quickly would you be there for them?
It is a lovely feeling to love others so much that just that thought of them uplifts your energy or softens your heart. We all have people we feel the urge to protect, the desire to see succeed, the curiosity to get to know and understand their intricacies and compassion to forgive whatever mistake they make.
But how similar is your treatment towards yourself? How much of a good friend, tight confidant and constant supporter are you towards your own desires, needs and visions? How do you handle conflict with yourself?
This week practice being as polite, as patient, and careful with your words as you would be in any interaction with the person you love and respect the most. Regardless of hardship, relationships are easier to keep and repair when there is constant tending towards them. You will have situations with yourself when it will be harder to practice self respect, compassion and navigating the process with a loving attitude.
What if I told you you don’t always have to be sweet and loving but you always need to be respectful, patient and practice understanding as quickly as you can, instead of drowning in heavy judgement.
When it comes to any kind of friendship or romantic relationship, the way you treat yourself will be the point of comparison for how others treat you too. Sometimes you’ll get lucky and have angels in the shape of humans teach you how you should and can be treated. Other times, we subconsciously look for others to abuse us like we are used to being abused by ourselves.
By ignoring our needs, crossing our boundaries and taking much more than we are willing or feel good giving. There’s a difference between giving and being taken from. And this dynamic can start and stop with the way you treat yourself inside your mind and in your day to day life and interactions.
When you start treating yourself with love, devotion, curiosity and honor, you start moving through life with that energy and somehow, others come to match it. And if they don’t, you can just keep moving. When you get positive and caring attention from yourself, you cease to need or look for external attention that may not always be positive.